Monday, June 15, 2015

Private Blog from December of 2013


How do you react when there is a woman that you love, who is in a relationship with another?  Do you fight?  Do you flee?  Do you walk away?  I ask each of those questions to myself with no answer. 
A little over a week ago, I found out that a woman, who I am pretty sure I love is going out with someone else.  This shouldn’t have surprised me, but it did come as a big surprise to me.  It explains why she said she wasn’t interested at the end of community group.  Perhaps she thought I knew, which is why she might have said yes to coffee, but I had completely misread the situation.  I thought she was ending a relationship with the guy’s brother rather than being in a relationship with him.  This led to me giving out more of my emotional feelings towards her, than I had ever communicated with someone whom I truly liked or loved.
I had previously shared my feelings with one other person whom I trust completely about this lady, and he had hoped that I would have a chance to share how I felt about her.  Well, to a large extent, I did share what I felt about her, but now am left in a situation that is not quite completely new, but that is rare in my life.  Someone knows how I feel about them, but what to do next is unclear.  I know that I can’t pursue her right now and perhaps never.  The not knowing certainly that never is the option that is true makes it very difficult to decipher what course to take.
There is another lady, who I think is incredible in many ways.  She loves Jesus whole-heartedly and is always speaking of Him.  If there is anyone that I know that I should pursue; then she would be the one, however, my heart is not over the one whom I loved for almost a year.  I don’t want to dwell on impossibilities, but my heart is not yet letting go. 
Do I need to make  my heart let go with action?  Force my affection to change?  Seek comfort in another and be made to forget my previous affection?  Scream?  Rage?  Beat my fists against the losing of a light?  I do not know what to do.
I cry out to God!  Make my path clear!  Is the prayer; that I had previously prayed; to be answered with a No?  I do not know that answer now, so for now I wait until there is a clear light for my path.

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